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Marjorie K H's avatar

Synchronicity. Today (Oct 2) is the the day I received the telegram that told me my fiancé (and first love) was killed in Viet Nam. I was a military dependent. I was at my college, so I was fortunate. The cabbie delivered the telegram to the school office and the school Chaplain brought it to me. That same day I learned my first cousin was killed in the same battle. A week later I got the letter from Darv that told me about Frank joining the regiment and how they joked about it being a “small war.” This morning I woke up and while watching the deer finishing up the late summer garden in the back, I told my husband I was in a rotten mood and could not figure out why. He reached out and squeezed my hand and said quietly, “it’s October 2.” Angry “rotten” feelings slowly morphed to feelings of old loss, joy, love and blessings from the man who was lost to a FUBAR war. I open Substack and here you are. Wonderful article. I am 75 and still learning.

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Anne Lowe's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing your day of grief and your journey with grief. We all face and have to figure out how to live with grief in our lives. It can be the death of loved ones, the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, the loss of a sense, the loss of idependence....

Your sharing the different ways you dealt with your grief and how facing it changed its power over you will benefit more people than you can imagine. Because you are a talented writer you've taken something that everyone goes through and given them a way to relate to it that they may not be able to express themselves. Thank you for this gift.

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